This Is Why Not Reaching Your Goals May Help You Fulfil Your Destiny

Unexpected Twists and Turns

To a woman who complained about her destiny, the Master said: "It is you who makes your destiny."

"But surely I am not responsible for being born a woman?"

"Being born a woman isn't destiny. That is fate. Destiny is how you accept your womanhood and what you make of it."

Anthony de Mello evokes the essence of your destiny coinciding with fate when you are attentive to it.

We are born with the seed of potential within us. Some are called to awaken their potential through fate or destiny while others have it thrust upon them.

I'm reminded of the tale depicting the unending search for wisdom outside of us when it waits to be discovered within.

The Creator of the universe gathered all of creation and asked: "I want to hide something from the humans until they are ready for it. It is the realisation they create their own reality."

"Tell me where I can hide this wisdom so they will never find it."

The eagle replied: "Hide it beyond the furthest star. They will not find it there."

"Not so, said the buffalo. One day man will learn to fly and find his wisdom in the furthest galaxies. Hide it on the floor of the sea and they will never find it."

"Not so, said the wise bear. One day humans will learn to swim to the bottom of the ocean and find their wisdom there. Hide it deep within man, for he will never think to search for it there."

So the Creator did precisely that. He hid the wisdom of life deep within mankind.

The quest to fulfil one's goals and dreams is a journey many go in search of. Whilst there is no roadmap marking the route, you must take a leap of faith and trust your journey is following in the right direction.

However, along the path, you may encounter unexpected twists and turns that look like you have lost your way, when in fact you are exactly where you need to be.

Your Destiny Calling

I revealed in earlier articles how I studied to become a menswear designer at university and spent time in Italy before my course was transformed.

Within the years that followed, I went from fashioning fabrics to writing and speaking about self-empowerment because I felt a pull to explore this path. I had little experience as a writer and speaker, yet everything fell into place as I moved forward.

What I experienced at the time is best depicted in the quote by the American novelist Wendell Berry who said: "It may be that when we no longer know what to do, we have come to our real work, and when we no longer know which way to go, we have begun our real journey."

What I thought was my ambition to be a successful designer soon became a distant fantasy.

I was asked in the years that followed whether I missed working in design. Frankly no, because my time as a designer had run its course and I was excited about my exploring life as a writer and speaker.

Does that mean you shouldn't chase your goals and dreams? Certainly not. My goal was to become a designer working in Europe and by that account, I fulfilled my ambition until life had other plans.

Author Alan Cohen said: "Every choice before you represents the universe inviting you to remember who you are and what you want."

In pursuing your goals, you may encounter adversity and hardship. However, challenges may be your destiny calling.

I don't know and neither will you until you step into it.

One thing is for certain, if your world is falling apart, it may be a sign your previous life is collapsing to give way for the new life to develop.

Embrace the Journey

There's a Japanese Haiku that reads: "I have always known that at last, I would take this road, but yesterday I did not know that it would be today."

There is no certainty in life when faced with these intersections and the sole guidance to draw on will be hope and faith. Hope you will overcome the pain and faith your new life will fall into place better than expected.

It was the French author André Gide who wrote: "You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore."

You must go forth in the direction you are called, for that is the greatest act of courage you can undertake. It signifies your willingness to trust in the unfolding of your life's narrative.

You are never presented with circumstances you cannot overcome because the seed of potential has been implanted within you.

Whilst it may not appear that way when you move forward with conviction, the path will reveal itself, but not a moment sooner.

If it seems your goals are out of reach, you may be progressing more than you realise, but not in a linear direction.

The universe comprises many moving parts. What looks untenable now is nothing more than life orchestrating the pieces of the puzzle so your life comes together as it should.

However, if you look intently at the chaos, you are likely to think circumstances are not unfolding in your favour. They are, but not in the way you think.

For now, follow the trail and embrace the journey while making the most of it.

Take the road less travelled and follow it with openness, knowing it might lead you to fulfil your destiny sooner than you realise.

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Nothing Will Change Unless YOU Change - Motivational Video

If you want a better life than the one you currently live, one of the greatest things you could ever learn is this: NOTHING will change unless YOU CHANGE. Things will never get better until YOU decide to get better. Until YOU decide to learn more, to work harder, to work smarter, to change your daily habits, to eliminate negative influences. This is YOUR life and it is up to YOU to make a change if you want better.

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HOW TO BE A CREATOR OF CIRCUMSTANCES

How to be a creator of circumstances rather than letting things just happen to you, is an idea that enters your mind when you realize that your thoughts somehow shape the reality you experience. Of course, opinions and beliefs influence the world around you, but how they affect you is your choice.

But if the answer is so simple, why isn't everyone doing it? Why aren't most people successful or happy? What is the difference between a creator and a creature of circumstances?

Circumstances are often attributed to things beyond our control. It is a word we often use to prove, describe or explain the situation we are in at present or in the past. But when you think in this way, you then are a creature of what is happening around you. Situations control you when it should be the other way around.

When you want to become successful or get something, you have to believe in your abilities. But you also need to realize that you control your thoughts. Thus you can shape your circumstances. It is the only way I know how to build a life, where you do what you want to do. And it takes knowledge, obligations, awareness, belief, risk, intuition and hard but smart work.

"Successful people are one hundred percent convinced that they are the masters of their own destiny. They are not creatures of circumstances, they create circumstances, and if the circumstances around them suck, they change them." - Jordan Belfort, the Wolf of Wall Street.

Creature of Circumstances
Just look at the present circumstances in your life, which are in control and which are you directing? When you search deep enough, you may find that while many are a result of the habits and choices you made over the years. Others are the consequence of other people's beliefs, preferences, and decisions.

So, how they affect, touch and impact you are your decision. Let's say that you had a bad experience with a cat when you were younger. And so, it creates a fear which makes you decide never to touch or get close to cats again. Believe me when I tell you that any animal sense the fear you have of them, and it reinforces it by their reaction when they are close to you.

As a result, you avoid cats and refuse to get near them. In this way, it also makes your social life tricky as you have a hard time visiting friends who have cats. You may even avoid certain places or cross the street as soon as you see one. In this instance, you became a creature of circumstances because your lousy experience made you a slave to a habit which has created different situations for you.

Two Types of People - Creator and Creature
Therefore, in this world, there are only two kinds of persons:

1.     People who are a creator of circumstances and turn everything they want into reality.

2.     The rest who are creatures of circumstances which is no other than 95% of the population and gets little to nothing.

Do you really want to be known as the person, who settles, goes through life barely making it, being satisfied with what you get and accepting what happens? Or do you want to be great and successful, and have a legacy and a reputation as someone who is a warrior in life?

Well, personally, I am a person who wants to make an impact and is a creator of his own world. So, you have to be an architect that creates his own life and designs it, despite all obstacles. You should strive to be a creator of circumstances instead of a creature of it. I know, I know- easier said than done. But do you have a better choice in mind?

How to Be a Creator of Circumstances
In the past, I was at times a creature to some of the circumstances life offered me. And I know you have to or still do. It is no fun at all as one grows resentful. But in the times where I won, I realize I created and controlled all of my circumstances. So how can you go from a creature to a creator?

First of all, if you change your thoughts, you will begin to alter your circumstances. Most people react to conditions or situations thinking that they have no control over them. It is true to some degree! There are various things that you cannot control. Stuff like who your relatives are or specific physical features you have.

But rather than letting the circumstances mould you, you have to be the one who changes the conditions of life that surround you. You can think, analyse and figure out whether you want to accept the situation or replace it. So, you are the creator of your circumstances, even if you do like it or don't.

Habits and Circumstances
In fact, most of your circumstances are a result your choices and decisions in life. If you take the time to search the source or cause of the reason you are in your situation, you might find out that you chose or decided what brought you there. But again, you must realize that unconscious habits have a significant role to play in the circumstances you create for yourself.

Therefore, these habits reinforce and support your beliefs, views, and principles. And it becomes even harder to change. Deep-rooted habits and circumstances are somehow intertwined. So you have to work on your inner self to change your outer world. You have to replace some habits with better ones.

However, too many people accept the status quo and refuse to go against the flow, out of fear. Everyone wants change, but not many want to change. When you look at the world around you, you can see what I am talking about here. To be a creator of circumstances, you have to go against the flow.

Creators Change the World
What happens when people who have enough do something about it? They change the world. I never settled very often in my life, and when I did, I rebelled against it after a while. Life is not about giving in but about fighting back.

On the other hand, so many people use circumstances to justify or excuse why they are the way they are. It is much easier to blame someone or something for the bad that happens or for the failures than to look within.

So, start to be honest with yourself. Ask yourself what the worst thing that could happen, if you become the creator of your circumstances, is. Focus on the best-case scenario instead of looking at the worst one. Great things happen to those who believe and take action.

Most of the time, the probability of success is on your side. Visualize what you want. Take action every day. Build momentum. The choice is yours but remember; it is better to be a creator of circumstances than to be a creature of situations which dictate your life.

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